Relationship coach and pastor, Kingsley Okonkwo, has sparked conversations online after sharing his thoughts on how differences in income between spouses can affect marriages.
Speaking on the subject, Okonkwo suggested that when a woman begins to earn significantly more than her husband, it could create tension in some marriages, especially if both partners struggle with their roles and expectations within the relationship.
According to him, some women may begin to develop resentment when they feel their husbands are no longer able to provide significant value financially.
“When a woman earns more, the marriage is in danger because many women are wired to see themselves as receivers. The moment she starts earning more and feels her husband can no longer do anything significant for her, resentment begins to build,” he said.
The clergyman further explained that men and women often have different motivations for working, claiming that many responsible men view their jobs as a means of providing for their families, while some women primarily see their income as a way to cater for their personal needs.
“If you ask the average responsible man why he works, he will say it’s to take care of his family. But when you ask many women, they don’t see it that way; they work mainly to take care of themselves,” Okonkwo added.
His comments have generated mixed reactions, with some people agreeing that financial imbalance can affect relationships if not properly managed, while others argued that successful marriages are built on partnership, mutual respect, and shared responsibilities rather than income differences.
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Read some comments below:
@Baadù:”We’re going through too much as a country for a pastor to still be preaching these kind of sermon in church.”
@Tipcee:”Na why he get church na. Everlasting influx of funds so he can stay ‘ahead’ of his wife.”
@Goodies:”This is nonsense. Women are not wired to be receivers. Women are nurturers. They however should not be carrying the financial burden of the family. Women need to satisfy the financial freedom, innovation opportunities, entrepreneurial muscle flexing urges that men also have.”
